I think its pretty safe to say, we've all had moments where we didn't exactly care for the reflection we saw when we looked in the mirror. Either we didn't like the shape of our nose, the size of our lips or maybe the color of our eyes. I think its also safe to say that these insecurities are most common among young adolescent girls, but what about young boys? Is it true that over the years things such as TV and magazines have put added emphasis on the appearance of boys?
I was always under the impression that boys, particularly young boys didn't really care if they even looked in the mirror before leaving the house. They'd wake up, throw on whatever t-shirt was closest to where they stood, maybe run their hands through their hair (that is if they even had enough to do so) and hopefully, with a little nudging from mom, brush their teeth. Having two young boys, I'll admit that I was relieved with this idea. Seems so much easier then dealing with the vanity of little girls, right? Wrong. All of it, wrong.
It has never ceased to amaze me the energy my son, at just 5 years old puts into his appearance. He actually
does care about what he is wearing and what his hair looks like. Will everyone think he looks cool? Will anyone laugh at him? Yes, at just
five years old kids are being judged, or at least feel as if they are being judged by their appearance. It kills me! What happened to being a carefree kid?
What really broke my heart though was when my son was standing in front of the mirror the other morning and he said to me, "I don't like the way my face looks". Caught a little off guard I asked why, whats wrong with your face? That's when he began to sob. I immediately thought maybe he was joking. His eyes where shut tight and I wanted to believe he was
pretending to cry. Then I saw it, the tear running down the side of his face, and I knew this was no joke. How could my baby,
at only 5 years old, already be having issues with his appearance? These insecurities aren't suppose to arise at such a young age. And for a boy? I was stunned.
Holding back my own tears, I tried to draw out what exactly it was that bothered him about his handsome face. First it was the shape, then it was, as he put it, 'everything in his face' as he motioned his finger around his eyes, nose and mouth. My heart sunk. He was serious. This handsome little boy really
did not like what he saw in the mirror.
After a talk about all the wonderful things I
love about his face that his dad and I, along with god made for him, he was back to his normal 5 year old distracted self. His brother had caught his attention with some silly antics and they where off smiling and laughing as they wrestled around the bedroom. I on the other hand sat, still in shock and disbelief.
Fotunetly, I have learned that its not just young girls that we have to worry about when it comes to insecureties about their physical appearance, and it is sad but true that no matter what age, we eventually judge
our own book, no matter how great the story, by its cover. So, while we continue to work on the content of our little ones stories, whether it be a princess fairytale with unicorns and barbie dolls or a race car driving super hero, dont forget to refer back to the cover and let them know just how perfectly it matches the inside.